Let me ask this - is this good. I was once convicted that I am not showing my daughter how to be a good woman if I am not teaching her household tasks and my son won't be able to know how to take care of himself when it is needed. I agree with that on a level.
The reason I am bringing this up is because it has become blatantly apparent to me that I NEVER sit down! Seriously!! From the time I rise until my day is done at night I am constantly on my feet. Since we have a breakfast bar we don't even sit at the dinner table now. The kids are around the bar and I am standing on the other side eating and feeding the baby. Still standing. Dishes, laundry, the constant pickup from a one year old, training a puppy that wants to chew everything in sight, sweeping, mopping, vaccuuming, taking this kids here and there, working on the computer, dishes again, another load of laundry, dusting, cleaning up the kitchen. Honestly the list goes on and on....all day......every day. It is so monotonous.
the other day when I asked my son to get my shoes for me since I was sitting down for a couple seconds to get a breather. He said, "Gosh, why do I have to be your slave?" [jaw dropping] WHAT?!?! It made me really think about what I do around here and how I am the one doing everything and he has no clue what a slave is. Don't get me wrong I love what I do, but it was proven to me right there that he doesn't show any appreciation for the house that he is raised in. It might be messy at times but that is a given with a busy family where someone is always home.
My question - I have a hard time instilling chores when I would rather do them myself so that I know they are done properly, there will be no arguing, and they will be done when I want them done and when they need to be done. My daughter helps a lot with my one year old so that I can finish stuff around the house so I don't know which one is better. My son would rather sit and play video games all day and my daughter would be a hermit in her room reading or something which means they are out of my hair and I don't have to hear their constant bickering. Let me tell you the age difference doesn't make that go away at all. They fight like none other. My son is annoying and my daughter is just - well let's just say she isn't very nice.
What do I do? I have a really hard time watching my kids do chores around the house so that I can just SIT. I feel like I am not doing my job. How do I overcome that and get them to help me around the house so that I don't feel guilty and yet they don't feel like I am working them like slaves.
What do you think?