Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Sick Babies


Tired Momma on the verge of getting sick


No Blogging

I'll be back soon...promise.

Monday, August 23, 2010

Any Boy's {or Girl's} Dream!

Have you ever heard of the "Touch-A-Truck" event?!  It's an event geared towards letting kids touch and climb and "drive" trucks of all kinds.  There was a fire truck, police car, ambulance, race car, recycling truck, combine tractor, and snow plow to name a few. 

Of course, I thought it would be a fun thing to do with the family. We were ALL going to go and then dad had to work so he wasn't able to. {crappy railroad - although it does pay the bills}  The day before Parker didn't really have a good nap since it was Ashley and Alex's Wedding shower {pics will soon follow on that}.  Anyways, I knew that another day without naps would be a bad combination for a 20 month old. Alysia didn't really "want" to go so with some coercing and batting of the eyes, she offered to stay home with Parker and let James and I have a "date".

Before we left for the day, I charged my battery camera since I drained it at Ashley's shower the day before.  We got to the event and I take my camera out to turn it on.  IT DOESN'T COME ON!!  AGH!!!!!!!  Seriously...I walked out of the house and left the battery plugged into the wall {my hubby is beginning to get really irritated at my forgetfulness lately - it could be the lack of sleep I get}.

I guess it's a good thing we have phones with cameras now so at least all hopewasn't lost.  They just aren't the totally awesome pictures I was planning on getting.

We really enjoyed ourselves! There was only one mishap when we had to leave which ended in angry looks at me. Two minutes later he was all smiles again and really enjoyed himself...

 James and I int eh tractor combine wheel ----- it was CRAZY HUGE!
I have NEVER in my life seen a vehicle as big as that!!

 Can't you just see the excitement in his eyes!
He was totally running from one thing to the next and couldn't get his hands on the trucks fast enough!!
It was good to see him so happy!!

 Sitting in an ambulance.
 James was very intrigued by the guy that drove the ambulance.
He told James all about what all the buttons and lights were for.
He could have sat there for another five minutes but with prying eyes behind me...
I had to let the other kids have a turn.
 Driving the Police Command Center.
He said "This is so big, I could live in here!"
 I told him, "This better be the ONLY time I see you in the back of a police car!"
I had no idea that the back seats weren't upholstered.
Hard plastic...no comfort for criminals {I reminded James}.
 Luckily he preferred sitting in front of it...
 The Deffenbaugh Recycling Truck!
Totally cool to stand on the back...
 Driving the Recycling Truck although he said that is NOT what he wants to do when he grows up.  Good!
 James getting a crazy shot of me wearing his Fireman's hat...
 Time for some Rock Climbing.
He really hit it off with a boy behind him in line and was so excited to be able to climb right along with him.
 Higher and higher he goes...those silly flip flops made it hard for him to go all the way though.
 This contraption had ALL of the kids attention.  It was the "Recycle Cycle".
A bike made out of JUNK.
James and all of the kids could have looked at it for hours.
After about 20 minutes {seriously} it was time to move on.

 Sitting in the bed of a truck outside the event that he wants his Daddy to buy now!
I'm tend to be partial and think Daddy would look pretty handsome in it too.
I'm not quite sure Daddy will agree with the close to $40,000 price tag though...
One the tractor combine.

Did I say that this event was TOTALLY FREE! My kind of entertainment.

If you're in the Kansas City area, you have to check out Kansas City on the Cheap.
This where I get a ton of ideas about free or near free stuff to do around town.
They update the site ALL OF THE TIME with new things going on.
It's my new online best friend.

Sunday, August 22, 2010

What's Your Personal Excellence

I can't begin to tell you how many self-help books I have read in my life.  They are always the first books I gravitate towards.  I wonder if that means I need all the help I can get when it comes to personal growth...

I came across a wonderful blog called, The Personal Excellence Blog and I have to tell you it is AMAZING.  Check out the link and read one of her 1000's of articles and I'm am sure you will agree.  One of the first things I am doing with this blog is to create my 101 Bucket List.  Bucket Lists have become quite common in recent years and I agree that in order to live my life to the fullest I need to sit down and really think about what I want on my list and create one of my own.  I will probably have a section here just for my bucket list but that will come with time.

I encourage you to go HERE and take a look at all of the awsomeness that is there!  Will you create a bucket list along with me?

Friday, August 20, 2010

This is Quite Lengthy But I Would REALLY Love Your Opinion

WOW!  What a title that was...

Many of you know that I am a stay at home mom to one 15 year old girl, a 7 year old boy, and a 20 month old boy.  Added to that I have an onery hubby and a house that is always full of noises and messes.

There are so many days where I reach the end of the day and after taking a look back I can't really see what "good" I have instilled in my children.  Keeping my home clean, feeding them, keeping them clothed with {clean} clothes, getting them to and from school, making sure they're rooms are at least {sanitary} and things aren't growing in them all make it hard to actually sit and focus on what I shoudl be doing with my kids everyday.

I know that I can let the dirt go but to really focus on my children just seems to get lost.  Sure I can color, wrestle, and all kinds of other stuff, but I have a sense of sadness when the end of my day comes and I don't feel fulfilled with my children.

With Alysia, she keeps busy with her friends and finding tiem to spend with just her gets harder and harder as the days go by.  School has started and she is going to be spending more time with her friends and at school functions and then soon enough she is going to want to be working somewhere.  Anytime I have with her just her, I need to make important.

With Parker, it is a little easier to focus and spend quality time with him simply becuase I am home with him all day.  Still there are many days that go by and I have let my pitter patter around the house interfere with truly interacting with him.  It makes me sad.

James is my precious boy that I think I am struggling the most with.  He is such a sweet tender hearted boy, yet he is so obnoxious.  It seems that everyday, all day I am arguing with him.  I am really starting to struggle with why he does some of the things that he does.  Was there something I missed and didn't get him to understand when he was younger to make him act the way he does.  He can be soooo sweet at times and at other times I have to keep myself from putting my hands on him.  Beucase of my frustration with him, I am noticing that I am quicker to anger and saying things that should not be said.  When he isn't listening to me for the "umpteenth time" I blow up.  If he's being rude, I tell him "Stop being a jerk."  It started with, stop being rude, stop being mean, and progressed to me calling him a jerk bascially.  Other times I aks him what in the world is wrong with him that he can't listen to simple directions.  I yell and get angry. 

The thing that is beginning to bother me is that he is starting to say when he is in trouble that "You all hate me", I'm horrible", "You like Alysia more than me", or "I can't do anything right."  These are all things that he has said and it is tearing my heart to pieces.  In the moment that he says these things I am angry and simply tell him, we love you James, you are not horrible, or that we love you just as much as everyone else.  I don't feel that I say it with much compassion simply because I am so frustrated.  I know for a fact that my approach to those feelings will greatly affect how he feels.

Please don't get me wrong, I do love James and I do tell him that everyday.  I just don't think that I show it everyday just becuase he is my challenge child.  I know for a fact that just telling him isn't enough.  He needs to feel it from me.  I am almost certain that he feels my love for him though...I think.

I have done some research with ADHD symptoms.  These are inattentive symptoms:

•Has difficulty following instructions
•Has difficulty keeping attention on work or play activities at school and at home
•Loses things needed for activities at school and at home
•Appears not to listen
•Doesn't pay close attention to details
•Seems disorganized
•Has trouble with tasks that require planning ahead
•Forgets things
•Is easily distracted
These are symptoms of hyperactive/compulsive:
•Runs or climbs inappropriately
•Can't play quietly
•Blurts out answers
•Interrupts people
•Can't stay in seat
•Talks too much
•Is always on the go
•Has trouble waiting his or her turn

The bolded symptoms are ones that "I" feel James exhibits more often that my other children.  I am not saying he does these things all of the time nor am I comparing him to my other children.

This topic can become a little heated between my husband and I.  James has a wonderful personality and Brian seems to think that if James is medicated then it will squash it.  I can somewhat understand where he is coming from but I personally think that it may make it better.  People will be able to appreciate his personality more if some of the other negative characteristics eliminated.  I am not into jumping on the bandwagon to medicate my son.  I do feel that there are parents that medicate their children just to make things easier.  That is not what I am doing.  This is not a debate of what's easy for my son or my family.  I do feel though that if this is the best thing for him that it is something that we need to look in to.  I also know that there are other things that can be addressed such as diet, etc.  I am willing to make changes in any of these areas but I feel we need outside professional help.

I guess what I'm looking for in this post is just some encouragement.  It is hard to go through my days sometimes knowing that my kids may not feel like they are completely loved by me or that my husband feels like I throw them "under the bus" quite a bit.  My husband thinks that I am quick to point out James' faults.

This breaks my heart simply because I don't want to accept that any of my children are "broken".  I know that no one on earth is perfect but some of us need more work than others.  I had a REALLY hard time accepting that I needed medical help when I went emotionally ape-shit {excuse my language} when I was pregnant with Parker.  There are things that have been with me my whole life and accepting them was a very hard thing to do.  Knowing this, I have not been quick to judge my son.  This is a very challenging thing to address especially knowing that my husband and I are both on different pages at this point in time.

Having said all this, what are your thoughts?  Do you have techniques that may assist us?  Are there things that we need to completely steer away from?  Back to the beginning, how can I get more fullfillment?  A mother's mood sets the mood for the entire home.  I want that to be a good thing!!

Truth For Mature Humans - WARNING, it will make you laugh!

I don't remember where I got this so therefore I can't give credit where credit is due.  If you shared this on your blog please let me know so that I can acknowledge you!

1. I think part of a best friend's job should be to immediately clear your computer history if you die.

2. Nothing sucks more than that moment during an argument when you realize you're wrong.

3. I totally take back all those times I didn't want to nap when I was younger.

4. There is great need for a sarcasm font.

5. How the hell are you supposed to fold a fitted sheet?

6. Was learning cursive really necessary?

7. Map Quest really needs to start their directions on # 5. I'm pretty sure I know how to get out of my neighborhood.

8. Obituaries would be a lot more interesting if they told you how the person died.

9. I can't remember the last time I wasn't at least kind of tired.

10. Bad decisions make good stories.

11. You never know when it will strike, but there comes a moment at work when you know that you just aren't going to do anything productive for the rest of the day.

12. Can we all just agree to ignore whatever comes after Blue Ray? I don't want to have to restart my collection...again.

13. I'm always slightly terrified when I exit out of Word and it asks me if I want to save any changes to my ten-page technical report that I swear I did not make any changes to.

14. "Do not machine wash or tumble dry" means I will never wash this - ever.

15. I hate when I just miss a call by the last ring (Hello? Hello? Damn it!), but when I immediately call back, it rings nine times and goes to voice mail. What did you do after I didn't answer? Drop the phone and run away?

16. I hate leaving my house confident and looking good and then not seeing anyone of importance the entire day. What a waste.

17. I keep some people's phone numbers in my phone just so I know not to answer when they call.

18. I think the freezer deserves a light as well.

19. I disagree with Kay Jewelers. I would bet on any given Friday or Saturday night more kisses begin with Miller Lite than Kay.

20. I wish Google Maps had an "Avoid Ghetto" routing option.

21. Sometimes, I'll watch a movie that I watched when I was younger and suddenly realize I had no idea what the heck was going on when I first saw it.

22. I would rather try to carry 10 over-loaded plastic bags in each hand than take 2 trips to bring my groceries in.

23. The only time I look forward to a red light is when I'm trying to finish a text.

24. I have a hard time deciphering the fine line between boredom and hunger.

25. How many times is it appropriate to say "What?" before you just nod and smile because you still didn't hear or understand a word they said?

26. I love the sense of camaraderie when an entire line of cars team up to prevent a jerk from cutting in at the front. Stay strong, brothers and sisters!

27. Shirts get dirty. Underwear gets dirty. Pants? Pants never get dirty, and you can wear them forever.

28. Is it just me or do high school kids get dumber & dumber every year?

29. There's no worse feeling than that millisecond you're sure you are going to die after leaning your chair back a little too far.

30. As a driver I hate pedestrians, and as a pedestrian I hate drivers, but no matter what the mode of transportation, I always hate bicyclists.

31. Sometimes I'll look down at my watch 3 consecutive times and still not know what time it is.

32. Even under ideal conditions people have trouble locating their car keys in a pocket, finding their cell phone, and Pinning the Tail on the Donkey - but I'd bet my ass everyone can find and push the snooze button from 3 feet away, in about 1.7 seconds, eyes closed, first time, every time!

To All of My New Lovelies!

If you're visiting from one of the Friday blog hops -


I am so gald you're here.  Sit down, have a cup of coffee and partake in all that I have to share {although at times it may not be much}

I love meeting new friends!

If you're here and you've been here before -


You know I love you all and I thank you for putting up with my crazy antics or boring "posts" sometimes.

I do have some crafts to share this weekend so please do come back and visit again.


New Friend Fridays


Thursday, August 19, 2010

Not Ready To Make Nice

This has forever been a favorite song of mine by the Dixie Chicks.  There is a lot of controversy that surrounds this group but they have been and will always be amazing to me. 

This song speaks to my heart on a much deeper level.  This song is dedicated to close ones in my family.  I hope this helps them understand me better.

Forgiving is sometimes the easy part. Forgetting is nearly impossible, which in turn can change relationships for years to come, if not forever!

I pray that all of your relationships are blessed beyond measure and that you never have to deal with family struggles that change the patterns of your life.

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

My Random Dozen

1. What is your favorite fair/carnival food?  Cotton candy and funnel cakes!  I have a horrible sweet tooth that I can't seem to get control of.

2. Are you holding onto something you need to let go of?  LOL - my sweet tooth!  Seriously, I don't know.

3. What is your favorite gift to receive?  Hand-picked flowers from my boys and anything from my husband.

4. When was the last time you tried something new?  All the time, at least with food.  My hubby has a passion for trying new foods so therefore I do.  My pallete has grown since we met but it will never be like his.  I can't do sushi {gross}.

5. What is your favorite and least favorite book genre?  I love most dramatic romance novels or anything with a deep meaning behind it so that woudl fall under Romance and Self Help.  Least favorite would have to be anything historical or political {BORING}.

6.Silver or Gold?  Depends on what it is but I tend to sway more towards silver at this point in my life.

7. What makes you sigh?  Romantic movies that really pull at my heartstrings!  These get me everytime.  "Fireproof" made me ball my eyes out!!

8. If you didn't know how old you are, how old would you claim you are?  That's a tough question since you truly know your age.  I have no idea.

9. Would you break a law to save a loved one? To protect a loved one?  If we're talking about my children, OF COURSE.  Anyone else I would have to say it depends on the law I am breaking.

10. If you had to teach something, what would it be?  It would anything along the lines of self-help.  I've always been intrigued by the field of psychology.

11. You're having lunch with 3 people whom you respect and admire. They begin to criticize a close friend of yours, not knowing she is your friend. What do you do?  I would highlight her good qualities and try to steer the conversation in another direction.  There are two sides to every story and an opinion is simply that - it's not fact.

12. Which of the 5 Love Languages is your prominent means of experiencing love?  Words of Affirmation.  My husband is Physical Touch {aren't they all}. 

Link up to 2nd Cup of Coffee to share your Random Dozen.

Monday, August 16, 2010

You Don't Want to Miss This!

Thirty Homemade Days is having and AWESOME giveaway that you MUST participate in!!  It started yesterday so go check it out now.  All of the giveaways are open all week so you still haven't missed a thing!

Good luck to all who enter!

Sunday, August 15, 2010

Advertising Has Us All Fooled - Seriously!

This is nothing new to me.  I don't know how they get away with it, but I know all the ploys and tactics that companies use to advertise.

My son on the other hand doesn't understand.  In his seven year old mind, what advertisers say is truth.  I fear that some day he will be in debt to every infomercial known to man just because he believes that they tell him, no matter how crazy it sounds or looks in our adult mind.

His newest obsession, thanks to my dear mother-in-law, {wink-wink} is Nutella.  She bought it for him one day and he wants it all the time now.

He asked me today if he could have some on bread.  {{yuck}}  I told him that he needed to have a snack that was a little healthier.  To me, spreading Nutella on bread is like spreading chocolate in bread.  Not very good for you!

James said, "But the commercial says it's good for you".  The commercial even touts that a healthy alternative to breakfast is Nutella on whole grain bread and a glass of milk or orange juice.  I hardly think that having Nutella for breakfast is a healthy alternative to other things.  I'm half tempted to believe that all of the sugar laden cereals, waffles covered in syrup, oatmeal doused in sugar is a lot better than "chocolate" on bread.

It's all sugar I know, but I'm just saying, I don't agree with it. 

Wikipedia even states "According to the product label, the main ingredients of Nutella are sugar and vegetable oils, followed by hazelnut, cocoa solids and skimmed milk, which together comprise at most 29% of the ingredients.  About half of the calories in Nutella come from fat (11 g in a 37 g serving) and about 40% of the calories come from sugar (20 g)."

So if the hazelnut, cocoa solids, and skimmed milk comprise at most 29% of the ingredients then that means that the sugar and vegetable oils comprise 71%.

If that doesn't make you cringe, I don't know what will. 

So my advice; eat Nutella if you want, but IT IS NOT HEALTHY.  I don't care what anyone says.  As us women like to say, "in through your lips, straight to your hips". 

Having said that, James will not be replacing ANY of his breakfasts with Nutella as a healthy alternative.  End of story!

Saturday, August 14, 2010

These are "SILLY" For Sure

I don't know what the craze is all about, but EVERYONE seems to have these darned Silly Bands.
Rubber bands in millions of different shapes.

I'm wondering why all of the people that sit around and get high on drugs are the ones that can make millions off of stupid things.
You can't tell me that anyone with a "brain" sits around and comes up with these off the wall ideas.
{I honestly don't know who came up with these and hopefully it isn't some person that I have offended by saying they were "high on drugs" if they weren't}
I'm just saying...

Well, I broke down.
I bought some for my kids.
I know, I know.
They're "silly" and don't make any sense.
But, you know what?

They were ecsatic that I got them some. 

James even found some military ones...

I just can't figure out why the military ones aren't at least in manly colors.
He is going to be wearing military silly bands in pink, purple, orange, etc.

Excuse his dirty feet...the boy did take a shower last night, I swear!!
He just runs around barefoot all day.

I DID NOT buy Alysia this many....she has inhertited several from her friends.
I told you "all the cool kids" have them.

We'll see what my hubby thinks about that when he gets home.

Friday, August 13, 2010

Time For The Fair!

Here is me and one of my handsome boys!  It was waayyyy to hot to bring Parker along.  I wouldn't have been able to "be" with James like he would have liked.  Thanks Ashley and Alex for staying to babysit!  Alysia...well she was MIA as soon as we got there.  It seems when you are 15 and you are at a fair then you don't want to hang with mom and little brother...her friends were way more important!  Who would have guessed...{sarcasm}

 I loved the bunnies....

He was moving so fast that I couldn't get a "great" pic!  His smile is priceless though...

I did FINALLY catch up with Alysia hanging out with her friends.  James was so happy to see her and get to ride the Ali Baba with her.....her not so much.  I made her enjoy it though.

This is what $3.25 will get you in a cheeseburger...about an 1/4 of an inch thick with cheese only.  All the extras were our for the takings in small packages just like the cheeseburger itself.  No fresh veggies here....they were REALLY good though!