Thursday, March 31, 2011

It’s Been One of Those Days

Yesterday on the way home from picking my son and daughter up from school, I forgot to run an errand and so I turned around to do it.  Of course, knowing my son, this was a huge deal to him.  He wanted to go home NOW and complained about it non-stop.  Now mind you, he didn’t even have to get out of the car on this errand and it was simply to the ATM machine.  No big deal.

But no….in James’ eyes it was the end of the world.  Everything he deals with is like this.  It doesn’t matter what it is.  If he doesn’t want to do it, then everyone else around him has to suffer.

So I began to get irritated that my now 7 year old son was crying over “nothing”.  I began to yell {yes….I yell…alot}.  Here are some of the things that came out of my mouth….

Can’t you just chill?

Why does EVERYTHING have to be such an ordeal with you?

You know, the world doesn’t revolve around you?

Why do you have to argue with EVERYTHING I say or do?

Things would go much smoother if you just relaxed a little and went with the flow, you know!

No big deal right?  Other than the fact that was speaking a little louder than normal.  Until two seconds later……..uh oh!!!

It was playing over and over and over in my head!  MY HUSBAND HAS SAID THOSE EXACT SAME THINGS TO ME!!!!  You see, my husband and I had a particularly *rough* day yesterday and he was very *kind* as to tell me what he thought of me.  {Don’t worry, I told him how I felt about him too}.

So all day I had been hearing these things being thrown at me and then I go and do the same thing to my son.

Hmmmm….I’m beginning to wonder if my son is JUST LIKE ME!?!?!  Can all of my bad qualities have been projected onto him?!?!  REALLY??  You mean, that happens!!!?!?!?!

Please do tell me that you have a child in which you see your negative qualities and they stick out like a “sore thumb”?!

I’m afraid I’m in a butt load of trouble…………..

And here is that handsome son of mine in all his glory!  He is a great kid – we just butt heads so much that I’m afraid he is going to end up hating me someday….



Priscilla said...

Beth it sounds like what I deal with between Ethan and I every day! i feel your pain!

Debbie said...

Oh Beth....Have you met any of my children?!?! ;) We do butt heads. A LOT. A LOT LOT. Stormy and Connor are the ones that it happens with the most. Breathe Momma. It'll be all good!

Debby said...

Everyone has days like that. Just tell him you are sorry and explain what made you say that. He will be fine. I always made sure to tell my kids that I was sorry, even if they had initiated it. You not a bad Mom at all.

Kimberly said...

Beth, we all butt heads at one time or another with our kids.

Sarah said...

Beth, my oldest and I are constantly arguing. She definitely got EVERY ONE of my annoying traits... luckily she also got a few GREAT ones of her own! You and your son will make it through!